Discover more from THE VILLAGE!
supporting single Black mothers
the invitation for Black men right now
In this 2 minute video I trimmed from a longer YouTube clip, Dr. Umar challenges Black men to step up. He says enough of watching our mothers struggle and actually do something. I won’t front, I got triggered a little.
While I know we already carry a heavy burden, if we want to CREATE the reality for ourselves, our families, and our local villages to thrive we need to move from BLAMING to BUILDING.
He invites us to step up and help raise our youth.
We can’t blame these kids for their behavior if we aren’t willing to do anything about it.
This is where we must bring our healing practices off the cushion.
You will not get free by meditating and doing yoga everyday.
The western view of spirituality is everything will be peaceful if you take care of your own mental health and that is not the African way.
The African Way is remembering the children belong to the village.
It’s on US what happens to our people.
Yet we all carry so much shame from not being loved as boys that the idea of being accountable for someone else’s child may make us cringe.
It may even bring up how we view ourselves as men.
This is good to begin to wrestle with because it will challenge you. It will sharpen you.
I am here to sharpen you as you are here to sharpen me.
I am here to continue to invite you to do the inner work and heal the trauma from your childhood.
I felt called in with my own manhood with watching the video.
Supporting single Black mothers comes with a feeling of shame.
Shame around my own identity with being ready for fatherhood.
33 years old with no children.
“Who do you think you are?” - The shame says as I write this post.
This is where deep breaths come in as I watch the mind do it’s thing.
I remember the truth of how I represent the healthier masculine, I remember all the work I’ve done to re-parent my inner child, and then I feel into my heart.
My intentions are pure and I can trust that.
With that, I am open to listening to single Black mothers out there who are reading this.
Questions for single Black mothers
What are the challenges you are facing?
How do you see us men stepping up more for you?
What is something we can do NOW?
Please reach out to me in the comments or reaching out directly to me via texting my cell 2035542335, on IG @whoisheru, or email firstname.lastname@example.org so that I may listen and learn from you! A quick 20-30 min phone call goes along way in fueling my heart and giving me insight on how to organize better moving forward.
My hope from the conversations is a new experiment where we as a village are coming together to support you in raising your sons to be a CHIEF-IN-TRAINING.
Men who will respect women and protect women - this is exclusive to the African Diaspora. No snowbunny hoppin in the Liberate Village 🤣
We as a village have another experiment running for me to bring healing to Black fathers who want to re-enter their families with integrity after recovering from substance abuse. Substances such as heroin, cocaine, and fentanyl. I am raising $1000 dollars to get to Baltimore to run an interactive workshop with these men where we bring healing to their inner child. I remind them also that it’s safe to let another man see you in your shame. It’s time to learn how to ask for help. Please consider donating and investing in the future of our village.
THANK YOU to everyone who has donated so far. We’ve raised $200 so far which is a plane ticket! Tomorrow at 530pm EST Kyree and I will be recording a follow-up conversation to talk about our own past challenges with drug addiction and dream what’s possible because this is just the beginning.
Here are some images to make this more real using midjourney. I see POWER in what mothers are already doing with no man in the house. Save them and use them if you’d like!