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getting clear about what help looks like
people can only help if they know how to help
As humans it’s very natural to miss each other on how we communicate
We each have own very unique ways of expressing our truths to people and often we expect the other person we’re communicating with to know our communication style
This is where a lot of arguments come in
We each have our own stories about each other and it’s only when we approach the situation after some breaths and humility that we may see that our truth may not be the whole truth
I had a “grown man” try to shame me around my last post with using the n word.
Yes I know it’s sensitive
Yes I know it’s controversial
and yes I’m being VERY intentional with using it
I need people to FEEL
Finally this person emails me but where were you when I talking about making a stand for children “grown man” or making a stand for single black mothers?
You were QUIET.
Emotionally stunted men try to shame the youth yet don’t take the time to listen and we are not having it anymore
We have to deal with your lack of accountability now
It’s time for you to grow up is what I say to all the “elders” reading and actually help the youth who are trying to make a difference
What worked for your generation will not work for the younger generations when it comes to inviting more people into healing
It’s time to listen
The way to listen is to spend time with yourself and ask
Where can I clearly communicate my needs to the people around me?
This is a confronting question because you need to know you are worthy of help to get clear about what help looks like.
It’s a practice so maybe you might feel confusion
Feel the confusion
We want answers immediately but the growth is in feeling
That’s all I need you to do in this post is to feel
To take a deep breath and pause
Pause and feel your body and say internally, “I am listening” with the energy of an Ancestors or Elder who represented or represents love for you
If you get very specific for people and say “What support looks like for me right now is to cashapp me $5 so I can get myself a 30 min massage.” and they still don’t help well now you have very good feedback on that person.
If this happens repeatedly, RUN THE OTHER WAY 🤣
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