finding your voice
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Finding your voice is a practice.
Speaking your truth is a practice.
I notice some of my truths are easier to honor with myself.
I notice some of my truths are easier to honor with others.
The dance of loving ourselves and feeling more free to simply be is uncomfortable.
With each post, I share how uncomfortable the healing journey really is.
It will take a lot from you energetically.
I’m always amazed with the intelligence of the body.
I’ve been feeling SO TIRED recently and last night I had a massive grief ceremony around how my father and I are not talking.
It was like my own body knew that it was time to release this deep natural desire for my father to “save me”.
Looking outside for a savior is a very natural human response to trauma.
The way to find your voice is to first realize a hard truth, no one is coming to save you.
It is just you in this body with your dreams to GET FREE.
It’s a truth that’s been hard for me to feel more and more.
There is a poem that encapsulates this beautifully for me. It’s called The Journey by Mary Oliver.
Here is an excerpt:
But little by little,
as you left their voices behind,
the stars began to burn
through the sheets of clouds,
and there was a new voice
which you slowly
recognized as your own,
that kept you company
as you strode deeper and deeper
into the world,
determined to do
the only thing you could do—
determined to save
the only life you could save.
As I re-read this piece, the part that grabs my attention is “as you left their voices behind”.
I LOVE THIS because the way to finding our voice and speaking our truth is to first identify “WHAT IS MY TRUTH?”
It’s a big question to ask and a powerful one.
Bringing this question into your practice will ignite a new fire in your spiritual practice if you’ve been looking for a little heart fuel.
I have so many practices that I have developed with myself to find my own truth.
To discern between all the noise in my head, what is mine and what is someone else’s?
What is my truth versus what is my parents’ truth?
Most of the stories we have about ourselves have been passed down and integrated into our consciousness between the ages of 6 to 15.
This vulnerable age range when we’re finding our identity in the world and reaching puberty.
Puberty is the point in which we were suppose to get our rites of passage from the village either into manhood or womanhood.
If we never got our rites of passage (which I bet 99.9% of the people reading this have not gotten), then we’ve miss out on learning how to find our voice with the support of others.
This is where the work begins.
We have to give ourselves our own rites of passage and then become the healthy elder by providing our youth with their own passage.
As I wrap this post up, I want to give one tangible way to find your own truth.
Isolation.
Isolation in my daily life looks like turning the phone off and spending two hours out in nature.
The first hour is me wrestling with the anxiety of not having my phone on me and thinking about all the tasks I have to do and then in the second hour I become so dialed in into the present moment.
It gets real quiet in my mind and the connection between me and my heart becomes stronger.
The more that you lean into your heart, heal your inner child, and spend time alone, the more you will find your truth.
Once you’ve found it, practice saying it out loud with yourself while speaking to the person you need to address.
One that I had to a lot that I don’t really practice so much anymore is “Mom and Dad, stop treating me like an 8-year old. I’M A GROWN ASS MAN!” 🤣
Another way to find your truth is healing in village with a free event I am putting together this Sunday June 25th from 7-830pm EST.
I hope I see you at the CAMPFIRE!
